I wrote this post last year when Denis and I were thinking of getting married but somehow it got lost in the shuffle and I never actually published it.
Most wedding aren’t environmental friendly. Unless both the bride and the groom are very conscious, they will make more than an effort to keep itÂ “green” in every aspect.
Denis and I are very true to our beliefs, and we have been for the last nine years we have been together. We also are just not the wedding kinda people.Â While most young girls plan their weddings their entire lives, I was never interested in marriage. I strongly believed that if someone loved me, there wasn’t a document they could sign to prove it.
BUT, unfortunately living partners do not have the benefits that married partners do. Not even heterosexual couples… (don’t even get me started on how unfair I believe it is not allowing homosexual couples to get married!!).
Anyways, and unfo rtunately, in order to prevent a Stig Larsson case, (not that I’m a writer), we wanted to ensure Denis could visit me in the hospital and make decisions if ever came up to that. Why me in hospital and not Denis? Cause I’m most likely to get into a car accident than he is… long story and not for this blog post 🙂
Anyways, so I came up with this thought aboutÂ “If we had the money to spend, what kind of wedding ceremony would we have?” And here is what I came up with:
If I was having a wedding, I would….
- Host it at the beach: Of course, we love the ocean and it’s a great place for a party and “legalizing” an union.
- Ask an Shaman to do the ceremony.
- Wear a bikini, not white for sure! And Denis would wear swimming trunks. Guests would wear beach gear and no one would be allowed speedos or thongs!
- Have my friends play music & do a drumming circle with the sage and all.
- Serve all local seasonal raw vegan organic food catered by a friend or prepared by me. All the food left would be composted of course. The plates and utensils etc would all be re-usable of course.
- Send email invitations, not paper.
- Register at non-profit organizations like 350.org, PETA,J/P RHO, Humane Society, and have people donate money instead of gifts.
- Have everyone that is coming farther than 30 miles be picked up in a hybrid vehicle. And anyone who was flying in, their trip would be offset.
- Offset any carbon footprint left because of the party.
I think that’s all… I’m not familiar with what else happens at weddings so these are as much as I would do.
We certainly cannot afford something like this anyways at this time in our lives and anything else would not be true to our beliefs. Therefore, please know that as much as we would love to have you all be part of this moment, we are going to have to do what we can that meets our standards.
So yes, consider this post as your “Save the Date” email (sorry it’s now late though!). But who knows, maybe in 10 years we will be able to do something as such again, one never knows.
As I mentioned in the beginning, I wrote this in October or November and somehow it got lost with all the other drafts.
So here are pictures of our actually wedding ceremony.
After the ceremony at the courthouse, we went to a new raw vegan restaurant that opened in SoBe, T.H.R.I.V.E.
I had called ahead and asked the owner Sheryn, to make a nontraditional “wedding” cake for Denis and I that would have chocolate and berries. And this is the result: